I am certain that the first thought that will come to your mind is to easily dismiss this article because of my log in name which implies my religious beliefs.
What I will do first is help you to remove that from your arsenal of opposition against this article as this was devised throughout my life prior to my religious status and is also a result of my findings through one on one discussion with other every day people. Some of whom are and are not religious.
For those who do not know, I previously wrote an article entitled Top 6 Rules to Finding Your Husband. In this article, Rule #3 was “Never sleep with a man before you marry him.” I have received so many comments on this rule
that I felt it best to make it an article of its own. Obviously if you are doing this for religious reasons that is a reason that I do not need to state. For others, I have shared my original nonreligious concepts behind this rule below to help women understand the current sexual disconnect we face between men and women that affects the possibility of finding your future husband.
Concept #10 – Men don’t think like women, they think like men.
When it comes to dating and relationships, women have one big problem...they don’t understand men. It is very
common for men to read books, magazines and articles written for women about women but women do not tend to do the same research about men. This is probably because women do not have to extend themselves much to find a man but men need and have to understand women in order to obtain a date or relationship. This is a misstep by most women. We really should try more to understand men, what their needs are and what they go through.
With that said, it makes it difficult for women to consider the other side when you have no idea what the other side thinks. Men don’t think like you. This goes for dating, relationships, and includes...sex. For example, where you think you had such a great connection that you could do something like have sex on the first date, a man, who may have also felt that connection thinks to himself, this is not something new to her.
Hopefully, you met someone that talks to you about it but some will just simply walk away. The current theory of what happens in the body when you have sex is that for women you maintain a physical and emotional bond to that person for up to 3 days where for men it only last 3 hours to 1 day. So by the next day that connection you felt may be over for him though it is still fresh for you.What is he left with after the “in the moment” connection has dissipated? He’s left with nothing but questions about you. He then begins to think that you’ve done that before, how often have you done that before and most commonly, if she did it with me she’ll do it with another man. This, in addition to no longer having that connection makes it easy for him to not call you back. Of course this is not every man but it’s best for you to know that you are in essence reducing the pool of potential husbands every time you do something that may give him a reason to question you tomorrow.
Concept #9 – Peer pressure still exists.
As long as I remember and before that, peer pressure has always been an issue. It has definitely changed its form over the years but in a time where most are so keen on being different, individualism and not being like everyone else...when it comes to certain things including sex we are all still under pressure to be exactly alike. It’s still not popular to say no when you don’t want to have sex. It’s still not popular amongst young adults to not have sex stories to share with your friends. It’s so uncommon to not have sex in a relationship that most people today act like having a dating relationship without sex is a foreign concept. And I can go on.
Now not only are they being pressured by their peers, we have now added television, movies, music and even their own adult family members who are having difficulty exhibiting sexual restraint. People you must begin to understand that a child does not have your matured mind and though you want to live in the free liberated woman world you still have someone watching you to follow in your footsteps. If you have ever uttered disapproval of today’s generation, they are a reflection of prior generations. The do as I say but not as I do approach never works.
Concept #8 – What about what you want?.
Don’t do it out of fear or obligation. I hear tons of women who are afraid to not have sex because they do not want the man in their life to move on, leave them, or end the relationship. This is never a good enough reason. If you are looking for a true love then you need to wait for someone that respects you for exactly who you are. If he does not respect your decisions on something that is completely your decision and if you start out relationships by giving in to things that you are not OK with, how do you think that the bigger issues will work out for you?Concept #7 - No one ever warned you about the “in between guy”.
So we’ve all been told about the men that may only want sex. We’ve also been told about the man that will hopefully someday sweep you off your feet. What you don’t hear much about is the guy in between. Women have been conditioned to have negative connotations against men who are only out for sex or that will do what it takes for sex and then walk away. We even have names for them like players, ladies man, etc.
If your future husband never gets the opportunity to know you without the things that may fade how is he to know what you will be like when those things do fade. If you used your body to attract him but it changes after you have bared his children are you more likely to question if he will stray, if you had sex from the beginning of your relationship and having sex was part of the time you spent together, when sex fades as you get older will his interest fade, maybe you’re no longer that much fun without sex. You should be exploring the characteristics that don’t fade. The ones that last as long as you want your marriage to.
Concept #3 – Sacrifice and Appreciation.
Wow. Sacrifice. To even use the word today seems like asking for miracle. In an age of instant gratification sex has become so commonplace that people don’t even remember anymore that sex is a privilege. What happened to the time when women actually thought about who they were allowing to share their body with. What happened to the time when instant gratification was not praised and high-fived with no thought to present and future consequences. Sometimes good things are just worth waiting for to minimize your risks of mishaps and things that could actually shorten your lifespan.
Concept #2 – Unplanned Pregnancy.
I know. I am beating a dead horse on this one but with over 400,000 reported births by teenagers ages 15-19 every year reported by the CDC, apparently this is not clear. Who does this start with? You. Teenagers are learning these behaviors that are now widely being accepted in television and movies while surrounded by adults who attempt to act out these movie star roles in their real lives. There are plenty of people who preach safe sex. I do agree with it as a second choice. However, the fact still remains that if you do nothing that you don’t have to worry about this at all.
With contraception there are still several things that can go wrong. Sex without contraception, it’s inevitable. We now live in a society where it is the norm to be a single parent. Think about someone else…the child that you may possibly be bringing into this world. To make things worse, if it is with someone you don’t really know or like. It’s hard enough to be a good parent in love, it’s tough enough to raise a child in a two parent home so why add to the risk. The more risk you take with your sex life will equal the more risks you put your future child in if conceived in the middle of your risk.
Concept #1 - Sexually Transmitted Diseases.
This is nothing new. You all have heard the cons of sex as it relates to sexually transmitted diseases. The one area of this that concerns me and needs to be addressed is the statement “I get tested regularly.” or “I get tested every __.”. Though I love the fact that people are taking care of themselves, I don’t think that the point has ever been driven home that…
TESTS ONLY TELL YOU WHAT YOU ALREADY HAVE!
Taking a test is not a precautionary option. Taking a test only tells you how lucky or unlucky you are. Relying on testing of sexually transmitted diseases is like playing Russian roulette with your life. You’ve already loaded the gun with risky behavior and you are hoping that when you pull the trigger this time it’s not the chamber that has the bullet in it.
--------------------
http://sugardaddydatingsite.org
It is the best older men younger women dating and older women younger men dating place
For older men , dating a younger women can be exciting and feel younger. And also you may find yourself more compatible with young women.
For younger women , It is a known fact that women are attracted to older men. Women, in general, will date men that are older than themselves. they love the way older men treating them. Mature guys always know how to treat their women. Many younger women want older men because they want the financial stability and long-term security.
Join us and Connect with millions of quality members now!
没有评论:
发表评论